Eleanor Louise Harder
1950 - 2022
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Len & Sue Enns donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Saturday, April 23, 2022
In honour of Elly's good work with social causes that dear to her heart. We miss her, and are thinking of you, Ron.
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Ronald Harder posted a condolence
Sunday, April 10, 2022
Closing remarks from Ron Harder-- Every "Freiwilliges" must come to an end, and so too this virtual one... On behalf of our family, Thank you for the tributes, the cards, the meals, the emails, and all the expressions of sympathy and support. And of course, thank you for the many donations to House of Friendship and Woodland Cultural Centre. I would also like to thank the health care providers--Telehealth, paramedics, and the doctors and nurses in the ER and the Cardiac Unit at St. Mary's Hospital--Your kindness and support was phenomenal. And most of all, Thank you dear Elly. You have given us all so much. We love you. We miss you.
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Hugo and Abram Harder posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 9, 2022
A Chapter from the Grandkids (what our dad forgot to write)
Our Oma loved adventures. She was always taking us on trips (Don’t think this dialogue will be smart - kids are writing this you know). One of our favourite trips, that we will probably always remember, is the trip to Great Wolf Lodge. We had so much fun in the waterpark and playing Magiquest. Oma loved watching us cast spells when we waved our wands. She loved swimming in the pool and watching us slide down the giant waterslides. She promised us another trip there, too bad she won’t get to join us on it - but her spirit might.
Our Oma loved baking. She loved being in the kitchen with us. This Christmas we made epic Gingerbread Houses, with excellent decor and fuzzy peach shingles. Oma baked all the gingerbread and we had so much fun going to the bulkbarn to pick out candy. We wish she could help us make more gingerbread next year.
Our Oma loved us. One of the things we invented with Oma was “morning conversation” This involved going upstairs, tucking into her bed, kicking Opa out (to make us breakfast and coffee), and yabbering on and on about random things in the morning. Some topics included: how our reading improved, current events, injustice and exclusion because of differences in gender and race,Canadian government, and Lego.
Oma will be loved and missed by all who knew her. She was a great Oma.
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Ute Schneider Boegli uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, March 8, 2022
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When I was a MCC Trainee (1982) in New Hamburg, my friend Annie from Holland was Trainee at your farm and I spent an awful lot of time at your place. Your door was always open and I felt so much at home with you guys. A wonderful friendship started back then and when you came visit us in Switzerland in 2009, it was as if we had just seen us regularily in all those years.
Thanks for your friendship and all I was able to learn from you about hospitality and opening my door to others, Elly and Ron! I am so thankful to have met Elly and known her as a friend! Ute
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Tuesday, March 8, 2022
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I am absolutely devasted to hear of the passing of Elly not only for you Ron but for your boys and your grandkids. Elly was someone who was full of grace and compassion and always showed me sincere kindness when I visited your family.
My condolences to all of you in this time of loss. Elly touched many lives and I know her memory will live on in her family as well. Love to all of you and sending strength to your family during this difficult time. May your memories give you peace, I know her love will continue to follow you each day.
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Thursday, March 3, 2022
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Deep condolences to Ron and your entire family. My memories of Eleanor go way back. During the late 1960's, I (Bob) was part of the extended gang of kids that hung out around the Koop family pool and generally took over the entire house. It was a time of lots of fun and singing and my memory of Eleanor was definitely the leader of the fun. In 1968, while hitchhiking across Canada I dropped in to visit Ron in Winnipeg just as his relationship with Eleanor was beginning to blossom. Eleanor was a very important part of his life already.
Eleanor is one of the women that has inspired me as someone who has integrity; she knew how to have fun as well as telling the truth about her thoughts, intentions and feelings.
I remember coming to Waterloo in 1969 and staying at their place when my own relationship with my now wife, Marlene, was beginning to blossom. They encouraged us and welcomed us as a couple. In 1971 we visited them in Toronto and again in 1976 on the farm.
I am sharing a photo of Ron and Eleanor at my wedding to Marlene in 1970. We both have always had a soft spot in our hearts for both Ron and Eleanor.
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Béatrice Stalder posted a condolence
Sunday, February 27, 2022
My name is Béatrice from Zwitzerland and i have been an mcc training for six months with Elly , Ron et of course you Matthew and p'tit Jean amour brother . It has bien a wonderfull time and i will never forget Elly and your precious Family . I have a lot or pictures of your Family and my stay on the farm you had. With love Béatrice
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Annie Weier Bontrager posted a condolence
Thursday, February 24, 2022
My memories go back to Niagara United Mennonite, where I would see Eleanor with her family sitting in the balcony usually on the other side from where I was sitting. Eleanor was the age of my younger brother so although I was not familiar with her myself I was aware of her attending high school in my brother’s class.
My next contact with Eleanor was at the time I was a volunteer with Mennonite Central Committee in Toronto. I was working and living in a group home for adolescent girls. Eleanor with the other members of the Warden Woods Unit provided a much needed respite from the drama of living with six adolescent girls.
Then when Ron and Eleanor left Toronto their home continued to be a welcoming haven with music, conversation, and support for many people. Since I moved to New York State, our contacts were much more infrequent but always welcome and rewarding. Many happy memories of our times together continue to bring us joy.
To Ron, Matt, Jean, and James we send our condolences. May the love and support of family and friends provide you with comfort in this difficult time.
Annie Weier Bontrager and Will Bontrager
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Virginia Reimer lit a candle
Tuesday, February 22, 2022
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I grew up near Virgil and was in Eleanor brother John's class at Virgil Public School. This meant I was 2 years older than Eleanor. But in the later years of high school at Eden, I became aware of Eleanor. She wasn't Elly until later. But by then Eleanor and Ron had begun their relationship. I do remember when our Gr 12 class had our class trip down to NY state for the day, Eleanor came along. How did you manage that, Ron?
I think of you a lot, Ron and all the emotions you are probably going through. I hope you eventually come to have peace.
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Queen's Green Community Garden posted a condolence
Saturday, February 19, 2022
Deepest condolences to Ron and family. With love from your friends at the Queen's Green Community Garden.
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Thomas Brown and Michael Lee-Poy posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 15, 2022
We considered Elly our "Kitchener Mom." We miss feeling her steadfast presence and support in the background of our lives. Due to the busyness of life and the limitations of COVID we didn't get to see Elly often over the past years however we knew she was there, that she loved us and our kids and that she had our backs. When we connected with Elly, whether it was over email, phone call or an in-person visit, the conversation was easy, her presence was warm and strong and her love was palpable. This was true even when there were longer piece of time between visits.
Elly was present and influential at key times in our lives: when we got married; when I went to WLU for my MSW; when we adopted our kids; when Mike's mom passed away and throughout my father's illness and eventual death. She offered us her support and wisdom (and photography skills); advocated for us when we needed; and hugged us tightly. The last hug Elly gave me (us) was when she dropped off a lasagna after my dad's death in January of this year, in fact, I think I got two hugs that day. I'm glad I did.
Ron, Mathew, Rebecca, Jon, Megan and James we are so, so sorry for your loss and we know how painful and deeply sad this is. Thank you for your support and for allowing us the honour of supporting you. We love you deeply!
We love and miss you Elly.
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Tim Bergen and Johanna Wall posted a condolence
Monday, February 14, 2022
Dear Ron and family,
It was such a shock to learn of Elly’s sudden illness and then one week later, her passing. We offer our condolences for the deep loss her death leaves. We’re glad to have found this site to celebrate her life.
We first met Elly on the same day that we ourselves met. Johanna and I met on a bus ride from St. Catharines to Toronto to participate in an Ontario Mennonite youth exploration of poverty in the city during the high school March break in 1971. When we arrived in Toronto, I having shared my Mom’s sticky buns with Johanna (much as Elly shared her mints with Ron on the train ride to Winnipeg!), we were met by Elly. She had volunteered to shepherd us on the Queen Street streetcar to take the half-hour trip across town to TUMC, where our group convened. That Friday evening streetcar was chock full of mostly men, some extremely inebriated, excitedly on their way to the Greenwood Racetrack, which was then right across the street from TUMC. There were some very strange and awkward moments, especially for Elly and Johanna and it was all a bit of an overwhelming introduction to the Big City. What I remember was that Elly was very calm and matter of fact in defusing and avoiding the more raucous riders, and basically set a tone of respect, awareness, and protectiveness without adding any provocation. Kind of an ideal social worker! During that week, we later met Ron, too, and he and Elly gave our group a tour of Warden Woods Community Centre where they worked as MCC volunteers. This was an introduction we’ve never forgotten.
In the- lo! - 50 years since, at many square dances, musical, and church events, we have appreciated Elly, usually calmly in the thick of things. We have been blessed by her presence.
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Mary Lou Hess posted a condolence
Sunday, February 13, 2022
My condolences to you, Ron, in the sudden death of dear Eleanor. I remember her warmth, generosity and lightheartedness from when you lived at the VS unit on Scotia Av.
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Lynette Wiebe posted a condolence
Saturday, February 12, 2022
I know Elly as both a rock and a rockstar. She became a foundational part of our Winnipeg home where we (Ernie and Lynette Wiebe) and Matthew, Rebecca, Hugo and Abram all live. Elly was a vital part of this constantly evolving place. She stood firmly behind all endeavours that promised to allow her loved ones to grow, to make music, to choose ‘off the beaten track’ careers, and to pursue educational adventures.
Always the best Oma ever, Elly lived her love in nurturing her grandchildren. She embraced discourse and was forthright and caring.
Elly was denied her hopes for the years ahead, but the sparkle she shared and the strength she imparted to those she loved remains in our hearts.
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Dave & Diane Willms posted a condolence
Saturday, February 12, 2022
We were shocked and deeply saddened to hear of Elly’s passing. Our sincere condolences to Ron and the boys; Gary, Barb, Al, Sheila, and their families; all our large, extended family; friends and acquaintances.
Thanks to Matt for the Life Story - some of it I had forgotten.
If you read the tributes to her posted here, she followed the caring/helping legacy demonstrated by her parents.
I can’t help but think that she is entitled to the “well done good and faithful servant” from our Lord, Jesus Christ.
As her brother Al said, the Koop kids – all gone too soon.
Cousin Dave Willms and Diane
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Norm Kaethler posted a condolence
Saturday, February 12, 2022
Ron,
I feel lucky to have stumbled into your and Elly's circle in 1991 as Matthew's teenaged friend from Silver Lake. Knowing Matt was also going to Rockway helped settle my nerves to live away from home. You and Elly generously opened your Kitchener home to me, encouraged our music and teenaged musings, and tolerated our shenanigans. You two modelled an authentic, caring partnership with each other and commitment to your values through your work and community and family.
Elly's loss is stunningly heartbreaking. Reading this tribute wall it's clear how wide and deep her impacts on family and community are. Terra and I are thinking of you, James, Jon, Matthew and families.
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Cameron Leith donated to WOODLAND CULTURAL CENTRE
Friday, February 11, 2022
Ron, please accept my condolences. I never had the pleasure of meeting Elly, but your comments at tuesday night hockey, so many years ago, made it clear she was very special.
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Rose Barg posted a condolence
Thursday, February 10, 2022
Ron, Matthew, Jon and James. We are so sorry to hear of Elly's passing. It is incredibly sad to imagine that the beautiful and vibrant woman we got to know as your wife/mother is gone! Elly was one of the most insightful, beautiful, strong and inspiring women we had ever met! And we had looked forward to many more visits in the future.We think of so many wonderful visits we've had with you, Ron and Elly - going to see Eric Clapton, visiting your home in Kitchener, at a big party/pig roast, meeting up with you in Winnipeg - many times, but especially last summer, when we shared a meal with you two and Ernie and Lynette at the Duck Pond restaurant. We also enjoyed your whole family when we shared our home with you for the celebration of Jon's wedding.
We thank you for all the wonderful visits we've had. We want you to know that our thoughts, prayers, energies and love are with you, and we wish you strength as you and your families learn to carry on without her vibrant presence,
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Christina Reimer posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 9, 2022
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of this beautiful person too soon. I picture the sparkle in Elly’s eye first and then the humorous and inviting grin. I remember her fondly as a warm, open-minded, funny, inquisitive and authentic person. In her presence, one felt like one could say just about anything without judgment. Big hugs to a great family and group of friends.
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Anne Brubacher donated to WOODLAND CULTURAL CENTRE
Wednesday, February 9, 2022
I first got to know Elly when I started working at Rockway and she was coordinating the hospitality groups. Then she joined our yoga class and I began to get to know her much better during the numerous coffee times that followed. However it was during our Thursday morning "COVID" zoom chats that I felt like I got to know her so much better. The term that comes to mind as I think about her is her "grounded presence." She spoke from a place of knowing who she was and what she stood for in a way that was calm, compassionate and yet direct and bang on. I grew to appreciate her a lot and will remember her fondly.
Ron, Matt, John and James, may you find peace and strength as you continue to remember Elly and the important part she played in each of your lives.
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Brigitte Roeschner posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 9, 2022
It was in August 1981 when I first met Elly, Ron, Matthew and Jon.
I took part in the MCC Trainee Program and my first placement was at the farm in Belwood.
Here I was, I had just graduated from high school, but had very little idea of looking after children and household chores.
Elly guided me into my new tasks in her calm and determined way with warmth and respect. I soon felt comfortable and as part of the family.
In the beginning when friends were asking if there were any language difficulties with the new trainee, Elly would smile and say this very sentence that has been quoted quite often since then: „Oh, she got off the bus and started talking like the queen“.
Many experiences that I was able to make during these 6 months have accompanied and shaped me in my further life.
Over the years we kept contact by exchanging letters, emails, phone calls or even better, visited each other either in Germany or Canada.
Every time we connected, it was like we had just met the day before.
When I got married, my husband Dieter was “adopted” too. Meanwhile our children have been travelling to Ron and Ellys’ home as well enjoying their great hospitality.
Our friendship now lasts for more than 40 years. What a gift and treasure we are thankful to keep!
Shortly before last Christmas we had a wonderful FaceTime meeting. Who would have known that saying „good bye“ then, would be the last one we said to Elly.
We feel so deeply sad about that great loss and send our comforting thoughts across the ocean to Ron, Matthew, Jon, James and all their family.
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Carolyn Djaferis posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 8, 2022
I, like a number of you that have posted condolences, was lucky to hang out at the Koops in Virgil during my teens. Mr. and Mrs. Koop were very kind to me after my mom died. Good memories around the pool with Marilyn trying to teach me to dive. It was never dull to be around her. So when my cousin Ron married Elly (Eleanor), I was thrilled. Years later, I would see my connection to the Koop clan continue here in the Sudbury area. Gary and Barb share with Ted and I a number of friends, acquaintances and of course, a love of music. When I explain how we are connected (we also share an aunt by marriage on my mom’s side), through stories of our grandparents’ migration, those who know us are amazed (or their eyes glaze over). Ron, we were so sorry that we weren’t able to get together at Gary and Barb’s last November when you and Elly passed through on your way to Winnipeg. At least it was good to have a chat on the phone. Reading about the many lives that Elly touched, reminded me of how much we had in common, social work and advocacy for starters. The tributes tell of how much she will be missed but also of the love that surrounds you Ron, and your family. Carolyn (Harder) Djaferis
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Lorna Brown posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 8, 2022
Thank you to Elly... and to Ron... for providing an anchor for us in our new home and for the hugs and food and love just a few short weeks ago. And now the unimaginable. Saying good-bye to Elly. Strength and light for the journey, Ron, family and grandchildren, and the many, many people who loved Elly. Lorna Brown
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Michele Gibson posted a condolence
Monday, February 7, 2022
Elly hired me at CMHC. She was a very dedicated, rational, kind and caring social worker. And she was a precious mentor. Her loss is not something I ever anticipated for myself or the community she devoted herself too, most especially her loved ones. My heartfelt condolences to you all, Michele Gibson
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Al Koop posted a condolence
Monday, February 7, 2022
In her early 20s, the spring of 1973, Elly took on one of her biggest challenges. She, and three
others, left social work positions in Toronto, relocated to a farm near Belwood and started a
group home for teens. The other three were males: husband Ron, friend Jake Neufeld and me,
brother Al. This undertaking became known as Ploughshare Partners which had a life span of
nearly five years. It only struck me after we had all moved on to other endeavours, just what an
incredible challenge it was for her to be the only female in this adventurous, semi-communal
partnership. Yes, we all shared in the “parenting” of the city teens who landed into, for them, a
strange rural setting and also household chores, animal husbandry, gardening and field work.
However, especially in the early years, Elly was the hub that turned the wheel. What I recall
most was that with the younger members of the household, she was tough when she had to be
and tender when she needed to be.
In the midst of sorrow and disbelief, my thoughts take me back to those times when we
strummed, danced and sang the long, more carefree nights away in the barn loft or around a
bonfire.. “I’ll Fly Away” was often the closer. On occasion, John and Marilyn would visit and join
in; each with their own particular singing style. Both have taken flight. And now Elly. All too soon.
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Monday, February 7, 2022
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Elly’s greatest body of work, by far!
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Peter and Betty Erb posted a condolence
Monday, February 7, 2022
Dear Ron: We hold you and your family in our thoughts and prayers as you grieve the loss of Elly. We have fond memories of Elly, and we remember when we first met both of you at Warden Woods in the early 70s. May you find peace and comfort in the love of family and friends.
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Rachel Harder uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 7, 2022
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I have loved reading the tributes and memories flowing in for Elly. A testament to how loved and cherished she was by so many. And Matt, your words in her obituary were perfect. The thing about obituaries for me is that I always learn so much more about a person and then wish desperately that I could spend more time with them. This is definitely the case with Elly. As a child running around her farm without a care in the world I had no idea of the work she was doing, the education she was pursuing, and the care she was providing for those around her. Now, as a mom myself, I am in awe of her patience and determination, and so thankful for the freedom she allowed us. I would like to thank her for being another adult in our lives who we knew deep down would always care for us and look out for us.
More recently I had the privilege of working with Elly on a committee at church helping to welcome and settle a Syrian family. I was so impressed with her commitment and organization and ultimately her longterm dedication and care for the family. What an inspiration! I have been in touch with this family since Elly's passing and they are completely heartbroken. She was a friendly face and an unconditional support to them during a very difficult time in their lives and I know she will always be remembered and loved by them.
I am attaching an old (fuzzy) photo from my parents albums of the RD Band (and friends/partners) that Matt talked about in the obituary.
Sending so much love to you Ron, Matt, Jon and James and all of her friends and family. What an incredible loss to us all.
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Laureen Schulz uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, February 6, 2022
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Elly and her big brothers
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Laureen Harder-Gissing posted a condolence
Sunday, February 6, 2022
I have been privileged to be part of the select club that can call Elly "Aunt" with a capital "A," but I can tell by the tributes shared here that her generous nature, warmth and wit was shared far beyond that circle. I think one of Aunt Elly's mottoes must have been the Yogi Berra line: "When you come to a fork in the road, take it!" Marriage, children, back to school, fulfilling career, dynamic retirement...Ellly said "yes" to all of these. As my youngest aunt she was not really that much further down life's road than I was, and her example inspired me many times.
Ron, boys and your families - my heart goes out to you.
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Joe & Kathryn Ferretti donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Sunday, February 6, 2022
Our deepest sympathies to you and all your family. We hope you will find strength in the many memories shared.
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Helen Koop donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Sunday, February 6, 2022
Sending my most sincere condolences to Ron, Matthew & family, Jon & family, James, Gary and Barb, All and Shiela and families
Love to all from your Aunt Helen Koop
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Jana Koop lit a candle
Sunday, February 6, 2022
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It has taken us some time to come to grips with the crushing loss of one of our favorite cousins.
First of all, our very deepest condolences to all of Elly's family, Ron, the kids and grand kids and the remaining Koop siblings.
The Passing of Eleanor has left such huge hole, that I am sure everyone is reeling from.
But, it is prudent to focus on the positive, and all the warm and fuzzy she brought to all those she met.
We . like others have been fortunate to be in the circle of friends and relatives.
It always stirred excitement in us when we got news that Ron and Elly were coming for a visit.
Our visits always consisted of good food, good wine and always amazing conversation, and sometimes a fun musical event
Elly, the superb listener, always had words of wisdom and comfort in time of crises. She was such a comfort to us on so many occasions. But then there was the fun Elly, when cool experiences and lots of laughs were shared.
These moments for us are truly unforgettable. It is unfathomable, that this era has come to an end.
Listening to Begonia or Spirit of the West will definitely have a new meaning to us.
Sending Hugs and love to all close to Elly, for whom she was such a huge pillar of support.
Until we meet again....
with Love Norman and Jana Koop
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lisa klenavic posted a condolence
Sunday, February 6, 2022
I have many memories and endless praises I could sing but I will share my fondest memory
Peter and I were fortunate to have visited Elly and Ron in early December while they were in Winnipeg.
There was Elly in her starring role face lit up smiling into the i-pad. Oma Elly with famlly and grandchildren FaceTiming Megan and Jons children.
Oma Elly with future plans in the making.
What a privilege to have been there at that time
Elly my friend we will miss you
Lisa and Peter
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Laura Shantz posted a condolence
Sunday, February 6, 2022
Growing up, Elly was always Matt Harder's awesome mom, but in adulthood, I have gained a deeper understanding of just how awesome she was. Moving back to KW 5 years ago, I got to know Elly as an adult and see her fierce commitment to peace and justice. She didn't just talk about justice, she did something about it. The actions she put behind her words inspired me and so many others.
I have also always appreciated her grounded and laid-back presence. Whether it was a conversation with her during a high school or camp hangout or catching up with her at Matt's Spirit of the West concerts in Vancouver, it always felt like she was really listening. I also always thought her and Ron were such hip parents as we chatted in a night club together in downtown Vancouver :)
I am so sad that Elly's voice will no longer be a part of Rockway church's discussions and initiatives large and small. I feel like there was still so much she had left to give and so much more we had to learn from her. I hope we can pick up where she left off and continue to work for a more just world…one conversation, one action, one letter at a time.
My deepest condolences go out to the whole Koop/Harder clan as you wade through the shock and devastation of Elly's death. She was an amazing person. She has left this earth too suddenly and too soon. She will be greatly missed by so many!
Much love,
Laura Shantz
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Rebecca Heide uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, February 6, 2022
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Most of my memories of Elly stem from my childhood, when my parents and their closest friends lived in West Garafraxa, all within a few country blocks from each other. It was kind of like communal living where we were frequently together, but each of the five families had their own farm. It seemed that more often than not, we ended up at Ron & Elly's for social gatherings and potlucks, probably because Elly was so laid back and the multitudes of people did not stress her out! She provided a relaxed and carefree space where us kids would run free and get into all kinds of shenanigans, including spending hundreds of hours trying to tip each other off the raft in the pond! As a mom of three boys myself, it amazes me now, what a gift that was to let us be kids and create our own adventures and memories.
In more recent times, I will remember seeing Elly at church and getting updates about her boys and seeing photos of her grandkids. I found a few pics from a Rockway Church retreat at Hidden Acres (2010), where she spent an afternoon doing face painting for some excited children, my boys included. There she was again, creating a fun atmosphere for the next generation of kids!
Sending our love to you Ron, Matt, Jon and James and your families.
Rebecca (Harder) Heide (and Duane and the boys)
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Gary Koop posted a condolence
Sunday, February 6, 2022
Memories of Eleanor (Elly) Harder - virtual “Freiwilliges” for the Church basement.
Those of you who know the history of the family of Henry and Agnes Koop will be aware that they had dedicated many of their retirement years to working in Haiti, leading a tuberculosis control program. Shortly after they had passed away, Henry in 2006 at the age of 87 and Agnes in 2011 at the age of 89, there followed a series of tragic losses in the family.
Our sister Marilyn died in the following year, 2012, at the age of 59. She was still active as an artist when she was overtaken by brain cancer and some of you have examples of her work in your homes and community. She had perfected a style that would draw you in with colour and unique shapes and then left you pondering about the message that was always there to discover.
Our brother John died in his home town of St. John’s Newfoundland in 2018 at the age of 70 of stomach cancer. His life was one of political activism by his example of self-reliance, individuality, music and simple humanity.
Now Elly has been taken from us at the age of 71 as the result of a tragic complication of a heart and stroke event.
Al and I are the last surviving and oldest of the five siblings. Growing up, Elly was always the big sister to Marilyn. This role continued through their school days and Marilyn’s years at the Ontario College of Art in Toronto, through her years as a struggling artist and to the end at her bedside in Elora, a strong support for Howie and Katie (for whom, along with Sheila, Elly did her best to fill Marilyn’s shoes). During John’s last stages of cancer, she and Ron fulfilled his last wish to tour the Newfoundland coast that he loved along with Cathy, John's loving partner who remains forever grateful to Elly for being her strongest support during this difficult time. To Al and Sheila and their children, Sam, Laurel and Danny, Elly was always there for them, especially during the tragic time of their loss of Danny. For me, Barb, Robin and Steve and their families, Elly became an important part of our lives, always drawing us out of our northern isolation with her regular telephone calls. As I become more aware of the many people and projects she was involved with, I wonder how she found the time. Elly and I shared two passions. Whenever we got together, the hugs and greetings were closely followed by the appearance of a scrabble board. Some time later, we would gravitate to whatever jig-saw puzzle either of us would be working on, followed by an exchange of the ones we has already finished. During the several times she and Ron joined us sailing in the Caribbean, I discovered her love of nature. She shared our passion for snorkelling on the reefs and studying the amazing underwater life. During these times, her camera was worn like a necklace, always ready for that next great shot, several of which are framed on our walls. She enjoyed the family reunions at our “camp” on Lake Panache. How much this meant to her, I only became aware when Ron told us that one of her last wishes was to have her ashes scattered there.
During our growing up years, working in the drug stores was a part of life, and our father HD made no secret of his hope that Elly would become a pharmacist and take over the business. Elly had other plans, but more than any of us, followed in the footsteps of our parents who had dedicated their lives after their early retirement to making the world a better and kinder place.
In our time of great sorrow and sadness, there could be no better memorial to her than our resolve to live our lives as she did, with the love, kindness and determination to improve and sustain the lives of our fellow human beings and indeed all life on our planetary home.
With Love and sad Farewell,
Gary (Elly’s eldest sib and brother), and Barb
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Glenna Louise Janzen posted a condolence
Sunday, February 6, 2022
Memories of Elly
The raisin bread is on the table and now I’m ready for my freiwilliges:
I have a lifetime of memories. When Koop family events came near to a close, I remember that one or other of the cousins born in “our year” would pester the relevant parent for a sleepover at Elly’s, or Linda’s, or my house. Sometimes it worked and sometimes not. I have a feeling that the fourth cousin born in 1950, Ray, got left out of these sleepovers, but I can’t really remember. When we were a little older, but still meeting at Oma Koop’s house (corner of Culp and Victoria in Vineland), we’d come up from the basement –avoiding the sump pump and hole over which Oma Koop had carefully placed a chair so that no one would fall in – get a BIG plate from the kitchen and pile it high with Oma’s fruit perishky – some apple and some cherry – and then get into one of the family cars, turn on the radio, and eat perishky to our heart’s (and stomach’s) content (YUMMM – only Mary Willms’ perishky ever came close in flavour and texture, although due to family size, she made hers “by the yard”). Other memories of Elly involve camp: Chesley Lake Camp, Silver Lake Camp, and Bark Lake. Elly was great at organising us in our skits: remember when Elly and Kate (Kathy Lepp) were Peter and Paul? They had charcoaled beards and wore their de rigeur for the year black squall jackets. I can’t remember who played Mary, or what songs were sung…. I’ll have to check my old photo album once it’s unpacked (we’re moving). And still later, I remember the trip to Expo 67 on the train: what an adventure! We stayed at Liz Janzen’s aunt’s apartment (first time I was ever in an apartment!), and wore skirts and dresses to Expo, and felt completely hickified looking at the French-Canadian girls our age who were wearing short shorts. And then adulthood…. Elly was a rock for me when I was wobbling. More recently, Elly and Ron, Linda and Ted, and Carol Leigh and I enjoyed some camping and lunches - times for reminiscing and for much much laughter. Elly had organised a cousins lunch for March 2020 that, of course, had to be cancelled. We three Ontario cousins were working on planning another one. …. I miss you, Elly.
- Glenna
I got to know Elly some over the past 20 or so years. I have been deeply impressed by many things about her, among which are intelligence, energy, kindness, strength, caring, and humour. I will always cherish the times we have spent together as couples, which were filled with fun and good conversation.
- Carol Leigh
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Brian Hunsberger posted a condolence
Sunday, February 6, 2022
When we moved in November, 2021, Elly contacted us to advise that on moving day, supper would be delivered at 6 p.m. And so it was.
When our church decided to sponsor a refugee family, Elly stepped up to coordinate this effort. She soon presented a coherent plan and recruited volunteers to fill the various roles that she had identified as essential.
She had a passion for prison reform, knowing that our so-called justice system is so often very unjust. She had recently written to her MPP, Laura Mae Lindo, voicing her concerns. Lindo forwarded her message to Gilles Bisson, Community Safety and Correctional Services Critic for the NDP. Bisson called Elly and they had an hour-long chat. Even though Bisson is not in government and thus cannot take direct action, she felt she was being heard and she was very gratified by that.
That was Elly. She had passion for social justice and community service, was a dear friend to many, had a warm smile, a wry sense of humour and was a good and compassionate person. She will be greatly missed. Rest in peace, dear friend. Your spirit lives on.
Our deepest condolences to Ron and family.
Jocelyn Schaffenburg & Brian Hunsberger
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Scott Brubaker-Zehr posted a condolence
Sunday, February 6, 2022
Elly was an active member and participant at Rockway Mennonite Church and we will miss her deeply. It’s hard for us to believe that she’s gone. Together with Ron and her family we are grieving. Elly’s most recent project at church was to head up our refugee support committee as we prepared to welcome a Syrian family. With Elly in charge, we all knew everything would work out. She had a way of being organized, focused on the task and yet very open and inclusive of other people’s contributions. She had a gift of working with people; all sorts of people from any walk of life. Elly was committed to social justice and peace and worked to make a difference through her career in social work, her personal advocacy and contributions at church. While having strong feelings and opinions on issues, she could also really listen. Elly had love in her heart, and could accept, and continue to relate to those with whom she disagreed. She is someone to emulate in this way. Our prayers are with Ron, her children and families and her broad community of friends, relatives and colleagues as we mourn her loss. May God sustain us and bless us with her memory and legacy.
Scott Brubaker-Zehr – Pastor, Rockway Mennonite Church, Kitchener
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Vince Ditrich posted a condolence
Saturday, February 5, 2022
Elly was a bright, funny, magnetic powerhouse who could fill a room with her quiet intelligence and quick humour. She didn't even seem to mind when I stole her eldest son away and dragged him along on a musical journey that was, as all musical journeys tend to be, somewhat ridiculous. My wife Merm and I will miss her vibrancy and the wonderful example she and Ron set for all married couples. It has certainly taught us much. Her passing reminds us that when we have such brilliant souls in our lives, we must be sure to enjoy and engage as often as we can. The world doesn't offer too many like her. We will remember...
Vince & Merm Ditrich
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Paul Janzen donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Saturday, February 5, 2022
Dear Ron, I am so sorry to hear this news. My condolences to you and your family.
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Will Winterfeld posted a condolence
Saturday, February 5, 2022
"We are all travelers on this great journey.
committed to the finding and following
of our guiding star;
from the east of birth and sunrise
to the west of death and sunset
and proceeding beyond both
to the perfect light" - Helen Luke
Elly was a constant. She brought calmness to the mayhem at the farm group home in the early 1970's. She was a fine square dancer at the barn dances with Rural Delivery. She lived/loved her history.
Ron, you were the constant to the constant - quick to back her up with a Harder quip.
To all of Elly's family, may thoughts of her life guide and comfort you.
Will and Josie Winterfeld
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Lyle Friesen posted a condolence
Saturday, February 5, 2022
The universe has many dark and winding channels and Elly’s sudden passing certainly occurred on one of them.
I remember being in Gretna, teaching at the MCI in 1973. I was struggling with the religiously bound Mennonite community and wondered how I would ever make it through the year. Then Elly and Ron arrived in the tiny Mennonite village where I lived - Blumenort. It was a lease on life!
I will miss her straight-shootin’ from the hip, the twinkle in her eye, her artistry and enormous zest for life.
Rest in peace Elly.
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Leroy & Carol Shantz posted a condolence
Saturday, February 5, 2022
Our fond memory of Elly is how she warmly and graciously welcomed us into the "Duffer" golf group, generously hosting the first potluck we attended. From then on, Elly was always welcoming, open to conversation, sharing of good books and family stories whenever we gathered. It was especially fun to commiserate with her on the golf course during the annual Benner "Stanley Cup" event. Elly, your loving spirit will be deeply missed!
Our deepest sympathy to Ron and family during this unexpected and difficult time of grief and loss.
Love,
Carol & Lee
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Elly left us far too soon, when she was in her prime, full of amazing work, energy, and ideas, not to mention wit, humour and light in her eyes. Of all the people I know, Elly had a most unique and genuine way of sharing empathy and love – she stood out among many! She knew how to bring you into her fold, how to affirm you and how to show a kind of unconditional love. Very few people I know have had the gift such as Elly had! Though I didn't grow up with her, it's as if she grew into my heart where her spirit continues to live. How I loved you, Elly - then and now! Possibly the last Sunday she was at a Rockway zoom, Jan. 16, 2022, I happened to take a screen shot – little did we all know then. Goodbye for now, dear Elly! - Love, Carol
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Elly - family or friend, you were both to us. All of our parents were closest friends as we grew up together. Later as adults when we all amazingly had farms near each other, our children also grew up together. Those were happy days. Elly your hospitality mirrored the open house policy we so fondly remember at your parents home in Virgil.
Elly you were a strong and steady link in this sometimes crazy group of friends. Eventually our children all grew up and our lives took varying paths, but throughout you remained family and friend. When you continued your education and pursued your career, we knew without a doubt that your solid leadership skills, your integrity and compassion would make a difference. The world needed you a little longer. We treasure and cherish our memories of you.
Our hearts ache for Ron, Matthew, Rebecca, Jon, Meaghan, James, and your four darling grandchildren, and also for your brothers Gary and Al and their families. We love you all.
Jo Anne and Ed Harder
February 5 2022
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Kathy WT posted a condolence
Saturday, February 5, 2022
When we were 11 or 12, Elly befriended me at Silver Lake camp where I knew no one. An inspiring friend ever since. A magnificent person. Miss you Elly! Deep condolences to Ron and family especially.
Kathy WT
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Albert Lobe donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Saturday, February 5, 2022
Folks, Ellie has crossed over. Her absence leaves a huge void; her life made a difference. What we have left, is what we had. Thanks.
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Bert C Lobe posted a condolence
Saturday, February 5, 2022
Ellie Louise Harder
Ellie embodied many postures: she was an advocate for the dispossessed; she was a neighbor, welcoming and consistently interested and concerned about others; she was passionate about her ideals…and her children, and she was practical. We saw her last on Monday when she knocked on our door to pick up the book The Rose Club. We gathered often, we enjoyed visiting over good tea and home baking. Elli left with a suddenness that jolted, but her life reminds us of what we had, of what we were developing, and it is what we are left with. Goodness, embrace, determination and courage. Thanks Ellie…and Ron!
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Feb 5, 2022
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Jane McKinnon Wilson posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2022
Elly was a wonderful mentor, friend and colleague to me throughout my career. She pioneered many successful programs for the most vulnerable in our community and led with integrity! Throughout our careers together we had many lunches with lots of laughter and learning more about each other’s family. Family was truly a priority to Elly and learning about her heritage was always very intriguing. She hosted many great fun team barbeques with Ron as the chef in their backyard, with the enjoyment of their swimming pool. Her commitment to her community was stellar! Elly introduced us to the wonderful musical concerts of Matthew, Rebecca and family and led us to hosting a concert in our home on the farm, a wonderful enjoyable evening with Elly, Ron, family and friends. Elly, may you soar high and we truly believe you will be orchestrating from above as you guide and watch over your loving family! Thank you for your amazing service and friendship.
Our family is truly thankful for the blessing of sharing in the friendship of dear Elly. Ron, Matthew, Jon, James and families, hoping and praying that the many great memories of your wonderful wife, mother, mother-in-law, Oma, sister and aunt will bring each of you peace in the days ahead. God Bless you all.
Love Jim, Jane, Jessica and Joel
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Lois and Lewis Brubacher posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2022
Several years ago Elly gave us a booklet containing the favourite witticisms, quips and quotes of her father, Henry Koop. One of these stands out: "When all is said and done, more gets said than done." Elly belied this -- when something needed doing, she didn't just talk about it, she did it.
We will miss her honesty, openness and wisdom. Ron, Jon, Matt and James, we are holding you in our hearts. -- Lois and Lewis Brubacher
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Pat Giles posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2022
I have known Eleanor for many years but my comments will be about a more recent time. Times after she was renamed Elly.
We spent some lovely evenings with Ron and Elly in recent years following the retirement of us all.
One thing I learned and loved about Elly during those times was her love for travelling and sharing her experiences of travel.
Soon after retirement, Ron and Elly went on a fabulous trip to Europe to meet with students who had lived with them while they had Ploughshare; they were treated like royalty.
We heard all about the trip with a photo show and a lovely European style raclette supper. We enjoyed the supper and the very interesting show and I learned how to serve raclette. They spent a lot of time in Newfoundland touring with Elly’s brother. We were planning to go to Newfoundland and Elly and Ron gave us details of places of interest to seek. Elly gave me a list of books to read written by authors from Newfoundland.
After their trip to Viet Nam, we saw incredible photos and also more books for me to read from Vietnamese authors.
Elly never did anything half way. Her curiosity about many aspects of life was immense. I learned about so many things from her; and yes I did read all those books with great interest.
Thank you again Elly
Pat Giles
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Lorraine Janzen Kooistra posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2022
There is no before time for me. Elly was always in my life. I probably heard her toddler voice in my mother’s womb when my parents were visiting Henry and Ag in Virgil. She was first in the group of Koop cousins born in 1950—Glenna, Raymond, and Linda soon joined her—and she looked out for us in the second crop of 1952/3—Marilyn, me, Kathryn, and Laureen (in order of appearance). I loved and admired her more than I can say. Over email last Christmas we both expressed hope for a Koop picnic this summer. Now that chance for us to catch up will never come. Already I miss her signature smile, head a little tilted to the side, her wry comments and good humour, her honest conversation about anything and everything, her devotion to family, her luminous spirit. Like Marilyn, Elly is gone too soon, and now I have to live in the after time, without her.
Ron and family—your loss is unfathomable--we are holding you in the light.
Lorraine (and John)
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Vern Lediett posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2022
Ron and family, what a shock to have learned of Elly’s illness and passing. She contributed so much to the field of mental health and has been a steadfast friend to many of us.
Elly worked in each of the rural and town and city areas. She worked as leader of different teams of practitioners, and participated at important local and regional planning tables. There was never a challenge that she turned away from, and in fact she would volunteer for roles that to many of us seemed almost insurmountable.
Across the decades that I have known Elly, she was in every way effective. It was not always clear how it happened, but even when opinions and approaches seemed separate and far-flung apart, she located common ground, things were made simpler, she showed how things could be, and she made it so.
As her friend and colleague, I could tell that when things came together it was seldom from a formula or script. Rather patience, genuine warmth and concern, understanding and respect, keeping it simple, and being fixed on what really mattered made things happen in a good way.
Elly taught and led by example, and there could not have been a better teacher.
I am sorrowful that she is not among us still, but as a friend and colleague, I celebrate that I have known her, and thankful that I have learned so much.
Vern Lediett
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Esther Etchells donated to WOODLAND CULTURAL CENTRE
Friday, February 4, 2022
Mourn the loss of a very special lady whose peace and justice passions we need to support.
Esther Etchells
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Dear Elly, you left us too soon and too quickly. We have so many wonderful memories of great times together ... watching the sun rise above the temples of Angkor Wat in Cambodia, touring the amazing Taj Mahal and Khajuraho temples of India, enjoying art gallery excursions in southern France and Spain, with a cup of warm molten chocolate and churros afterwards or a glass of wine. We snorkelled together, and golfed together and enjoyed so many BBQs and meals in each other's homes. How we loved you and will miss you!
Our deepest sympathies to Ron, and sons James, Jon, Matt and their families. We are grieving with you and hold you in our hearts.
With love, Irene & Henry Schmidt
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Arlene and John Groh posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2022
Elly, we are filled with profound grief and sadness. We have trouble believing that you are no longer on this earth. At the same time we are deeply grateful for your friendship over the years. Thank you for your unconditional love, generosity and wisdom. Thank you for our many straight up conversations, sometimes on difficult topics, but always sprinkled with your wonderful sense of humour. We loved that your strong sense of justice and your passion for social concerns precipitated action. You were a catalyst for change and healing. Thank you for sharing laughter and tears, for soaring high to hold a broad perspective on issues and then zeroing into the crux of the matter. We are grateful that your essence is intricately woven, tied and knotted into the patchwork quilt of our lives. We grieve. We cherish memories. We miss you! We will continue to give love and to advocate for justice. We are holding Ron and your family in a circle of love and light.
Much love,
Arlene and John
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Jim and Goldine Pankratz donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Friday, February 4, 2022
Elly's death is a great loss, a deep sorrow for us. We know it is even greater for you, Ron and family. You have much to cherish and much to grieve.
Among her many attributes (let's call them what they are, "virtues"!) was her capacity for seeing and listening carefully. Visually that was expressed in photography and puzzles. But in friendship (and undoubtedly also in her professional work) that was expressed by her gift of attention, being present. We will miss that gift greatly.
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Laureen Schulz posted a condolence
Friday, February 4, 2022
Eleanor was an integral member of the clan of Koop cousins, who, along with their parents, would descend on our Oma Koop's tiny house in Vineland to celebrate various holidays. We would eat in shifts...the children first, and then the adults, so that they could linger over their coffee and "spaziere". We kids would head over to the playground equipment behind Vineland school, despite wearing our "Sunday best". Later, when we were older, we would congregate in the vehicles parked in the driveway to listen to pop music on the radio, or we'd sit among the coats on Oma's bed and gab. As the numbers grew, due to marriages and the advent of the next generation, the celebrations moved to local parks--McFarland and Burgoyne Woods--and to church halls. And, of course, we gathered as a family to say our final farewells to first our parents, and sadly, more recently, to some of our siblings. We would love to be able to gather now, to lend our loving support to you all at this time of great loss. But if we can't be there in body, we can certainly be there in spirit. Ron and family, know that Elly will be missed for all the joy and laughter she brought to the now dwindling group of Koop cousins.
Laureen (and Rick)
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Deborah and Jean Gauthier donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Friday, February 4, 2022
To Ron and Family;
So very sad to hear of Elly’s passing. So many great memories of our shared careers together. May all your beautiful memories help to sustain you in the weeks to come.
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Samuel J Steiner donated to WOODLAND CULTURAL CENTRE
Friday, February 4, 2022
My clearest memory of Elly is of her honesty--about herself, about her family, about her place in life. There was always a directness in her gaze and in her speech. I always admired this gift.
I cannot imagine, Ron, the overwhelming loss you have suddenly experienced. May the good memories help to sustain you during the dark nights.
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A letter to our best friend Elly
Dearest Elly.
How can we say goodby to you…we were already planning to visit you in Winnipeg. Laughing, crying, we would have talked long into the night. Janzen and Koop, puzzle pieces that fit together…spiritual sisters, forever friends. You cared for Marilyn so lovingly and we vowed that we would look after each, when we got old. Now we can only love both of you in our hearts and never forget what a treasure, what a gift our friendship was. Love always, Liz and Cath
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Ron & Kaye Rempel posted a condolence
Thursday, February 3, 2022
Memories…. Summer of 1967. At age 22, just graduated from Canadian Mennonite Bible College, I came to Virgil, Ontario to help out at Bethany Mennonite Church as a student pastor. Instead of getting an apartment, I accepted the offer to be billeted several weeks at a time with different families – the Koop family included. An enjoyable immersion into Elly’s family culture – generous hospitality, lots of friends coming and going, backyard swimming pool, adventures recalled and new ones being planned…. February 2011. A call from Elly letting me know her mother Agnes passed away and asking if I would conduct the funeral service at the Bethany church. In planning the service Elly described her mother as a forthright realist, not one to put people down and showing unconditional acceptance. Similar traits lived out by Elly as well. – Ron Rempel
Over the decades, our lives intersected with Elly, and Ron, through family connections and events. We enjoyed our visits with Elly. We liked hearing her speak of her family, her work, and her travels. We loved her welcoming smile and her authentic, matter-of-fact way of being. She had a wonderful ability to connect and accept, to engage and encourage those around her – a strong legacy that will live on. We are sad that her life adventure ended so early and will think of her when we have farmer’s sausage and potato salad, food served the last time we saw her. - Kaye & Ron Rempel
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Elizabeth McNair donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Thursday, February 3, 2022
Words fail me in expressing my sadness at your great loss but I know that the work of House of Friendship tries to meet some of the injustices which Elly addressed.
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Betti Erb posted a condolence
Thursday, February 3, 2022
Oh, dear Elly.
Words fail us. We loved you well, and can hardly bear to let you go.
It is hard to even put language to the loss that your dear Ron, and sons, must be feeling.
Death has no dominion, we know - that's good theology - but grief certainly claims its own jurisdiction, for so many of us.
Your bright light is now gone from this mortal life, but you are in God's care and keeping. This we know.
So little we can say in the face of such unfathomable sorrow. We loved you well!
Betti Erb (fellow congregant)
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Brian Hawthornthwaite pledged to donate to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Thursday, February 3, 2022
In memory of Eleanor Harder
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As another Koop cousin, younger than Elly, our friendship began as adults. Elly loved to gather with her community but she also cared for the well-being of others. Elly shared a love of colour with me as you can see in the first photo of her with Julia in our home. Brian and I enjoyed several trips with Elly, Ron, Henry and Irene. The second photo was taken in Santa Marta, Colombia. Elly was a dear friend and will be missed.
Donna
My memories of Elly conjure up images of family and community. She loved her family and she was involved in many outreach programs. We will miss her calm demeanour, her wry smile and sense of humour.
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Linda Helen Vanderwal posted a condolence
Thursday, February 3, 2022
As a (Koop) cousin born in the same year as Elly, my memories go so far back that I don't even know the beginning of them-I do know they are many, and varied. Our lives intersected at Howdenvale, Silver Lake, Boynton Beach, the backyard pool in Virgil and at the many family gatherings that filled our childhoods.
One fairly recent event stands out for me- several years ago, Elly, Glenna and I, and our partners, went camping for a few days in McGregor Provincial Park, as a get-together we'd been "planning" for ages but never seemed to make happen. Finally, one September, all the stars aligned- everyone available, great weather, beautiful park, a full moon and more laughs than we would have thought possible, proving that cousins might grow old, but they don't grow up!
And now a piece of our family history and experience is shockingly and irretrievably gone-Elly will be so missed by many, but especially by us, her cousin/friends, who grew up along side her, and will remember our shared past lives, into a future without her.
Our loving thoughts go out to Ron, the boys and their families, and her siblings and their families, as they begin their new life of loss.
Linda (and Ted)
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Marg Benner posted a condolence
Thursday, February 3, 2022
Our paths crossed many years ago in Toronto when Ron took over from Stan in the first VS position at Warden Woods. Those first years were heady, carefree ones with music and deep conversations that the 60's had ushered in.
When Ron and Elly moved to the country and then Kitchener, we lost regular contact until we too moved to the Waterloo Region. It was wonderful to reconnect.
I have had so many good conversations with Elly. She was such a clear thinker, able to make sound socially conscientious decisions and articulate them so seamlessly.It always amazed me , her ability to do this!
Ron and Elly became my home away from home when I moved back to Toronto, generously sharing their space, their food and most of all their company.
But one poignant memory keeps recurring these last few days. When I was sitting alone in the hospital waiting room while Stan was in the last stages of cancer, in walked Elly with a bag of her freshly baked zwieback. At that moment there could not have been a greater blessing!
You will be missed dear friend...
Marg Benner
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Trish posted a condolence
Thursday, February 3, 2022
Elly.. what a leader you were. Elly gave me a chance as a very green MSW grad in the rural office for CMHC. She also became my landlord that same week. Good memories of Elly leading skits with the teams and bringing her wry smile and humour to lighten the work. A fierce advocate for the projects she worked on. Too soon for us to lose such a spirit. Ron, thinking of you and your family and sending lots of love. Please take in the ripple effects of her life on all of us.
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Ron Harder Posted Feb 3, 2022 at 11:42 AM
Trish…I remember like it was yesterday. Calling to see if our house in Fergus was still available for rent. Remembering you telling me you thought you had just scored a job and needed a place to live. You were worth the risk, both for the job and for the rental property. Thanks so much. Ron
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Daniel Lichti donated to HOUSE OF FRIENDSHIP
Thursday, February 3, 2022
Dear Ron and family,
I know that words are not adequate to convey the sorrow I feel for you all during this crushing time of loss and grief. Knowing the kind of excitement and anticipation you must have been feeling for many more shared years, this has to be completely devastating. My heart goes out to you.
Dan Lichti
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I don't think it's overstating that Elly helped raise me. There are so many memories I have of our time in West Garafraxa, driving the couple country blocks to spend time together swimming or skating on ponds, playing in fields or playing music. Her welcoming smile and laughter ring in my heart. And there were times she chastised and told me what was what too! I found a few photos in our albums: 1986 (I think it was move-in day) at the farm; the whole Koop gang at Howie and Marilyn's wedding when we all went to Newfoundland; a Valentine's Day party at our house. When a bunch of us moved into Kitchener, I spent many times around the pool and playing music with Matt (and Norm and Matt) and I was always welcome. There was always a slice of toast to be had :) I appreciated her grace and steadiness, her encouragement of our music making, the tending of community and family, the genuine interest in me as a person. She was a gift.
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Saturday
20
August
Celebration of Eleanor's Life
4:00 pm
Saturday, August 20, 2022
Rockway Mennonite Church
47 Onward Ave
Kitchener, Ontario, Canada
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